Remember those survey emails you used to get back in the day where you answered a bunch of questions about yourself and then had to send to 20-or-whatever people?
I loved a good survey in those days, and, for some reason, I clearly remember that every time the “What are you afraid of?” question popped up, my answer was always “the unknown.”
What makes the unknown scary for a person like me, and maybe you too? I can’t control it.
Few things freak me out worse than feeling like things are spinning out of control. And, boy, do things feel out of control right now!
I’ve got the stress of protecting my medically-complex child from this scary virus. There’s the stress of keeping him from catching something else and landing him in a hospital that already has the potential to be overwhelmed with people to care for.
Aside from the medical stress there, I’m worrying about what to go out in public for and what to avoid. I’m waiting anxiously to hear if my job is going remote. Without any of this stress, we’re operating as a one-car family because my husband’s car broke down for the third time in as many weeks and ended up in the junkyard.
And then, my husband came home much earlier than expected with the news that he got laid off.
Perhaps the scariest thing about all this stress is that my go-to’s as far as self-care in these stressful times aren’t an option like they normally are. The sense of community and groundedness I feel at my church on Sunday is huge for managing my stress and anxiety. But, it’s probably not a great idea for me to head into that large group and risk catching something that will make me have to isolate myself from my family. A quiet morning in the library or bookstore can quiet my mind too, but the library is closed, and, if I’m not going to church, I certainly shouldn’t go to the library, right?
The unknown is coming from all sides and everything feels out of control.
This feeling can be my cue to engage panic mode. I’ve learned, though, that panic doesn’t get me anywhere. As I’ve scrolled through the seemingly endless stream of social media content about coronavirus, with content ranging from angry and blame-y to data-driven to nervous and panicked, the content that sticks out the most to me is the content about loving and taking care of each other.
So, that’s my plan in this crazy time–take care of myself, take care of my family, and take care of people.
This season isn’t the first time I’ve felt like my life was spiraling out of control. Thanks to one adorable and very complicated little boy who has been giving our family a run for its money for more than two years now, I’ve learned a thing or two about finding my power when things feel out of control.
My heart is telling me I can love other people well by sharing what I’ve learned and supporting them in this out-of-control season.
So, here’s my plan. I have created a Facebook group as a safe space for people to connect and find some sense of control in this very complicated and scary season we’re in. It’s called “When the Going Gets Tough, the Tough Get Grounded.”
- This group will be classified as “Private” and “Hidden,” since I know some of us don’t feel comfortable projecting to the Facebook world that we are feeling out of control (although I challenge you to not worry about that…but one thing at a time).
- I’m not selling or pitching anything there; it is simply a space to give people somewhere to go when they feel that panic rising inside when things seem to be spiraling out of control.
If you think this group could be helpful to you, you can access it by clicking here. You’ll get an email with a link to the Facebook group and any other instructions you need.
Let’s take care of ourselves and each other. <3