I am a creature of routine. Sometimes to a fault, but I try to use it for good. So, I thought I would capitalize on my routine-mindset to start a little one on this blog, which I’m calling the Wednesday Words of Encouragement.
Each Wednesday, I’ll share a little mantra and pep talk for the moms out there who are facing challenges, no matter what they are.
I hope this brings some brightness to that tricky middle of the week…plus, I like alliteration. 🙂
Let’s dive in…
I can be the mom I want to be.
Life can be filled with so many can’ts, shoulds, have tos, and don’ts. I can’t be the fun mom because I have to be the disciplinarian. I can’t be the good guy because my husband always makes me be the bad guy. I should be more hands-on with my kids but I just don’t have time.
Really, these are all just stories you’re telling yourself. There is no proof of their truth. There will always be an argument against them.
If you filled yourself with the same unwavering determination that you have when you’re advocating for your kids, you know that you can be whatever you want to be. Sure, it might take some effort and adjustment, but, if you truly want to, you can.
What kind of mom do you want to be? For me, I want to be the mom who embraces my kids fully in all that they want to be. I want to be the mom that guides my kids through emotions instead of suppressing the ones that don’t feel good. And, most importantly, I want to be the mom who creates a life where the good outweighs the bad, regardless of the challenges it brings.
Sometimes, that means setting aside something I’m doing to sit beside my toddler when she is having a meltdown. It means setting aside my frustration on those difficult days to ask her if she needs a hug when she is being really sassy.
It doesn’t mean that I am the only one who can do this, though. Other people can help me create all sorts of good experiences. I can create a culture in my parenting village through my actions that teaches all the people in their lives to guide them through emotions instead of pretending they’re not angry or sad. All of the responsibility doesn’t have to, and shouldn’t, fall on me.
Being the mom I want to be doesn’t have to be a burden. And, I am fully capable of being that mom if I set my mind to it.